I was THAT girl last week, I couldn’t help myself. I’ve been having bi-weekly conversations with a reservist who normally lives close but who is currently stationed in VA thru late summer. We had one date the first week in April, which went better than any day dream, minus when I got all annoyed I only saw him once during his trip home. For that I vented to my girlfriends, remained calm whilst talking to the reservist.
Last Thursday I asked him if we were exclusive, even though my brother said I shouldn’t. Even though the reservist had said he wasn’t looking to rush into anything. He said he thought it was too soon, I politely explained my friends are constantly trying to set me up with people & I wanted to know where we stand, was calm. An honest discussion ensued, we decided we were not exclusive. The previously mentioned trip to visit him? Axed because I said I didn’t want to emotionally invest. All honesty, no resentment. Totally normal between us.
All day Friday he texted me & home dude never texts me all day, barely texts at all. Ever. Not into it. Our next phone call? He brings up that topic saying he’s thought about it, & wants to be exclusive.
I suggested his previous argument, he says he feels he can’t be a boyfriend from so far away…but that he wants us to be able to discuss whatever is on our minds. And I know he’s still thinking about it, & me.
Granted this is the guy who prefers voice time over text time, lets me talk more than any other guy I’ve ‘dated,’ & didn’t bring up anything intimate for three months. (And i attended college with his sister whose cool as fuck.) This time makes up for all the times I was honest & wondered ‘am I being THAT girl?!’ because this guy simply asked me to explain what I wanted, why & told me to talk as much as I wanted about it.